You are not lost because you don’t know where you are.
You are lost because you don’t know where you’re going.
There’s an answer on Quora, to the question:
What are the most valuable things everyone should know?
In the answer, Jordan listed “things” that are valuable. I picked the things that highly resonated with me and removed those that does not necessarily apply to me right now.
I recognize these values as my own and strive to live by them. I’m far from embodying all of them, for now.
Here’s the list:
- Always tell the truth.
- Do not do things that you hate.
- Act so that you can tell the truth about how you act.
- Pursue what is meaningful, not what is expedient.
- If you have to choose, be the one who does things, instead of the one who is seen to do things.
- Pay attention.
- Assume that the person you are listening to might know something you need to know. Listen to them hard enough so that they will share it with you.
- Plan and work diligently to maintain the romance in your relationships.
- Be careful who you share good news with.
- Be careful who you share bad news with.
- Make at least one thing better every single place you go.
- Imagine who you could be, and then aim single-mindedly at that.
- Do not allow yourself to become arrogant or resentful.
- Compare yourself to who you were yesterday, not to who someone else is today.
- Work as hard as you possibly can on at least one thing and see what happens.
- Maintain your connections with people.
- Set your house in perfect order before you criticize the world.
- Be precise in your speech.
- Stand up straight with your shoulders back.
- Don’t avoid something frightening if it stands in your way — and don’t do unnecessarily dangerous things.
- Don’t let bullies get away with it.
- Remember that what you do not yet know is more important than what you already know.
- Be grateful in spite of your suffering.
It struck me that as much as Permaculture changed my life, I have never actually written about it. There’s also the fact that Permaculture is something we need to be educating all people on and I could at least share my perspective on it here.
I think I’ve avoided writing about it because I don’t feel the competence to do so. There’s so much to learn and so much sources of knowledge around.
I think though it is time to write a little something, simply my perspective on what the Permaculture is.
Permaculture is quite a broad “discipline” and as such might be a little bit hard to explain or give a definition of. It encompasses every aspect of our life.
In one of the articles where I mentioned Permaculture I quoted:
The above is a short description taken from Wikipedia.
I often worry.
Usually for no reason (if there’s ever a truly valid reason to worry).
Right now, I stress out, whether to take laptop with me on the trip to Corby.
What is the point of this worry? Why do I make myself suffer with taking the decision? Well while I write this I already decided that I do take it so now I’m quite relaxed. Relaxation came after Miss D and I had a laughing session about that.
I mean, how crazy it is, to waste the precious time to worry about such silly things? Yet the mind sometimes narrows down to this one thing, this one silly thing, focuses all its attention on it and I become a bundle of stress.
Worry does not bring any benefits. We can’t change or positively affect things with worry. There are none but negative outcomes that come from worrying.
Now, knowing that our health is highly influenced by our environment we can see how detrimental worry is to us.
I entertain the idea of the first 7 years of life being crucial to forming the character of a person and being largely responsible for how our life will unfold through our subconscious thought patterns and therefore actions.
When we’re born, we learn by observing and reflection. We observe our parents and learn about this reality from their reactions and responses to what we do, and their overall attitudes and behaviors towards each other and life itself.
The first thing the child does after tripping and falling on the ground, is to look at the parent. If the parent is freaking out, the child will most likely start crying. If the parent is calm, smiling and encouraging the child to get up and continue playing, the child will brush off and go back to play.
The parent is reflecting back what happened to the child, teaching the child how to respond to the situation. The future attitudes will be formed from these simple interactions.
Of course the example above depends on the severity of the accident. We can’t expect that child with a deep cut will happily get up like nothing happened just because the parent responded like nothing happened, but the general attitude and reaction and response patterns are being formed and will determine how a the child will respond to certain situations in the future. Whether she’ll cry and make big fuss after every small bruise or whether she’ll bravely take on challenges and press on in life. Continue reading The First 7 Years Of Life
When we are children, we know nothing. We ask questions, we explore, we are curious and inquisitive.
We treat everything as new, everything is play, the World is a mystery and anything is possible.
We soon lose that perspective. We grow up being taught a different attitude towards life. We’re taught to ignore what’s around us and focus on getting somewhere, on things that are useful, we strive to be productive, we look for growth, to accumulate, to gain, to get more and better…
We lose our keenness and curiosity.
Insecurities replace the courage and self acceptance is lost in favor of being self conscious. Instead of carving our own path, we follow the beaten tracks marked by those who walked the path before us.
And just like them, we soon get disillusioned, disheartened and lost. Walking along the people who are lost just like we are, we think that all is well and there must be something wrong with us since everyone else is doing it, and they seem happy…
We miss out on the beauty of life we’ve been amazed by once.
How much more would we get from Life if we payed attention?
If we worked on regaining the childlike attitude towards life and our sanity back?
If we could “empty our cup” and look at ourselves and Life with fresh, new, child’s eyes, like if we saw it for the first time.
If we could forget what we’ve been taught.
I admit it’s not super easy.
To unlearn what I think I know about reality. To learn to accept myself fully and trust myself. To know who I am and follow what’s in my heart. To not care what others think of me, how they judge me.
It’s not easy but I practice and see small wins here and there. I try to be mindful, to pay attention, to be grateful and kind. To love, to care, to help and allow to be helped. To laugh and play. To make mistakes…
I try, because after all, we only have a short moment to experience this Life.
It’s hard not to notice that we humans do everything to make ourselves obsolete.
I understand that some inventions are here to help us and make our lives easier. I do. But behind some of these new inventions, there is a willingness to remove ourselves from the process of Life itself.
There are things in life like cooking, washing dishes, watering plants, turning on/off the lights. These are the processes in life that we engage in that as a whole make up our life. The interactions with the others, plants, non-human animals, other humans, the whole of Nature.
Yet when I look around I see us removing ourselves from experiencing these small beautiful things. We run away from them, but I’m not sure what are we running towards.
We have dishwashers that wash our dishes, we have ready-made meals in the smart-fridge and a pizza just a click of a button away (keep in mind i speak of us, the people in the affluent countries that does not have to worry about those “little” things, like shelter, food, water…).
We have smart home systems that open the door for us, switch on the lights. We have smart coffee makers.
We have smart phones in our pocket and “echoes” on the counter that tell us the temperature and play our favourite music without getting up from the couch.
And while all these inanimate objects around us are getting a little bit smarter… Aren’t we getting a little bit ______?
We’ll soon have the cars that will drive us around.
We’ll have the drone that will deliver the mail.
We’ll have a droid that will make and bring the coffee round to the couch while smart TV will pick the best channel for us saving us from reaching for the remote.
And when we get all these…
What will there be left for us to do in this Life?
This post is meant to provoke some thought (a lot) as well as “entertain” (a little).
Before you spit on your screen and call me a hypocrite: I use technology myself, I love programming and building stuff with technology at heart. I also interact more with computers than human beings on a daily basis… 😛
I wrote recently about how short the Life is.
Today, I wanted to share something of a similar tone. The subject of Impermanence.
The realization of Impermanence, of the fact that all things including ourselves will cease to exist, that the contact with the people and things we love will end, can be very liberating.
The implications of this are vast. I’m yet to comprehend it in its entirety. But I feel it inside, running through my core, deep, touching my truth.
It brings up the tremendous value, extraordinary preciousness of every moment in Life. There truly isn’t any time to waste.
There’s no time to waste on arguing, on the rights and wrongs, “goods and bads”.
There’s no time for holding grudges.
There’s no time to feel guilty of the past and to live in the future.
All conditioned things are impermanent…
There will come a time when you won’t be able to touch your loved ones, to hug them, embrace them. You won’t be able to tell them how much they mean to you, how truly beautiful they are and how honored you are by their presence in your Life.
You won’t be able to express how grateful you are for the time of their Life they decided to share with you.
Knowing this deep in your heart, changes everything.
We can’t take anything for granted, because every thing will pass.
This moment is all we have.
This moment is the opportunity to embrace Life.
This moment is the opportunity to embrace the loved one.
Life is short.
However you look at it, we are here just for the short moment.
This moment is an opportunity to experience and answer the questions to:
Who Am I?
We can experience who we are, by our relationships with our self and other (including Nature of which we are part of).
We often look for the meaning of life…
We are here just for this moment and we have the opportunity to influence the lives of others. Those around now, and those that will come in the future.
Would that be meaningful?
We can be kind and loving to others.
We can make them laugh.
We can build and create.
We only have a moment…
And more precisely, we only have this moment.
There is no future to count on.
There might be no tomorrow.
What will we do with accumulated goods?
With the riches, items, properties?
Once on a deathbed we’ll look at our life and apart from the people around us, if there’ll be any, we’ll have just the memories.
Memories of the people we touched and touched us.
Experiences with others.
There’s no time for hatred.
There’s no time for insecurities, judgments, fear…
Embrace every precious moment in this Life.
Embrace your loved ones.
We only have this moment.
We often live through our heads, gathering information on what Life is.
But the Life is an experience.
What will we do once we find the smallest particle that makes this Universe?
What will we do when once we know all the answers?
Life is an experience…
And we only have the moment to experience it.
We have created the World in which the reality of it is often hidden from the view. We are being fed one version of this reality, while consuming something totally different.
I think that one of the most important things in this Life is the quality of relationships we have with others.
How do we treat the other?
The other, who is weaker than us?
The other, who does not speak our language?
The other, who can’t stand up for himself?
How we treat the others say’s a lot about who we are.
Today I wanted to share a documentary that shows how do we treat some of those weaker ones among us… Non-human animals.
If I’m not mistaken the general idea is that we, the Humans, are intelligent and we have have the ability to self reflect. Unlike the other animals.
I ask you then to use your intelligence, I ask you to self reflect, look into your heart.
Have you ever tried to look into their eyes? To see who they are?
When I look into their eyes I see intelligence. I see emotions like joy or fear. I see a living being valuing their own live like I value mine. I see so much of myself in them.
We decide upon their live and death, yet have no right to do so. Not only we decide when they die, but we also decide how will they live their lives.
Isn’t that slavery?
In those extremely horrible conditions, isn’t that extreme cruelty?
We so much value our freedom… Shouldn’t we then be able to respect the freedom of others?